Sunny

[admin]

Oh Maura, I am so so sorry. I am crying writing this, as I know so well the pain you are going through. As Sheena said, you did everything you could for your little girl. This disease is absolutely vile.
Although endings are always dreadful, I am glad you were there with her and could hold her (although I know it takes a lot of strength and courage to stay there with them). She would have felt that love, and passed knowing you were there, loving her.
When you feel able, go the Rainbow Bridge part of the website; although it invariably makes me cry, I take great comfort in thinking that they are waiting for us at the Bridge. Perhaps that would help Jill, too.
If there is any way we can help you and Jill to cope with the grief, please let us know. It will take time. Will the vets handle the cremation? You might prefer to find your own crematorium. The one we use here allow us to spend some time with our pet in the chapel of rest, which I find comforting.

Take care; she is not suffering now – and you did everything you could for her. Please remember that

Lynda
xxx

[Tamara]

I am in tears, Maura. I am thinking of you and Jill and sending all my love and deepest sympathy. I know it was such a comfort to Sunny to be in your arms as she crossed. We are here for you and with you. We all know how hard you fought for Sunny.

Sending you many hugs and much love —
tamara xoxox

[Hope]

Maura –

I’m so absolutely devastated for you, little Jill and Sunny too. Please know you did all you could and more — someone said on another site that God only picks the strongest to fight this disease and I absolutely believe that. You gave her the best gift you could give her at the end. I hope you take comfort in knowing she was surely at peace with you by her side and you will see her again. I hope one day your wonderful memories with Sunny will soothe some of the pain you are feeling now. I’m so so sorry!

Much love and all my thoughts with y’all,

Hope

[Vally]

Oh Maura I’m so very very sorry. I’m praying that you all receive consolation. You fought so very hard but sometimes this most terrible disease just won’t be beaten.

Big big hugs to you all.

Love Vally

[admin]

Dear Maura

I am so very sorry to hear this sad news. I am sure that you are in pieces at the moment, and I know it is no consolation, but every one of us is here with you and feeling it too. It sounds as though you really had no choice and it is a blessing that you were able to be with her, to hold her, and to love her. You did absolutely everything you could for her, there is no doubt about that. Please keep talking, whenever you want to. We are always here for you. Now you need to let yourself grieve. Talk to Jill, hold her, cry with her. It can be nice to write down memories, or create an album, but do what you feel like doing. There is no right or wrong.

Loads of love to you, Mike, and Jill.

Mary x

[Brigitte]

Dear Maura,
Please accept my deepest sympathy on the loss of your sweet Sunny.
Of course I don’t know exactly how you feel, but I have a pretty good idea. You did everything you possibly could, you spared no money or time. Of course all your love should have saved your girl but still it was not meant to be that Sunny would beat this disease. The way you described, when and how Sunny came into your lives made me think that it seems that some dogs come into our lives at a specific time when we need them. They come to us to teach us, to help us or just to be there for us. Then when their job is done, they leave. Of course no matter how long or short this time is, it is never long enough.
I love this saying:
Good dogs are with us for a little while to teach us how to love like it is our job….. because it is.
I know that right now no words can heal your broken heart. I know that these last few days are edged into your memory and you can not seem to get those pictures out of your mind. I am almost certain that with time the wonderful memories you have of better times with Sunny will get stronger and stronger. When you think of Sunny, eventually you will be able to smile again. Don’t let these last few days define her life. She had a great live with you, her life meant to make you and your family happy, smile and even laugh. Honor that memory by being happy that you had Sunny, even if it was only for a short time.
An other of my favorite sayings:
Don’t cry because it is over,
Smile because it happened.
And then of course there is the butterfly poem that so much reminds me of your sweet Sunshine:
“A butterfly lights beside us like a sunbeam.
And for a brief moment its glory and beauty
belong to our world.
But then it flies on again,
and though we wish it could have stayed,
we feel so lucky to have seen it.”
If you are up to it, please read “the bridge”. Don’t let anyone tell you time will heal your pain. You will always have a certain pain in your heart because you had to loose Sunny this way. I hope you will always have some joy in your heart when thinking of Sunny in better times, happy and healthy.
Please accept my deepest sympathy and extend it also to Jill and Mike.
With love,
Brigitte

[admin]

Maura – I am sure your grief will be far too raw to read these for a little while, but we are all with you. Please look at Sunny’s tribute on the Bridge part of the forum; it is beautiful, and we hope it will help you.
Mary’s suggestion about making an album might help a little – it will help you to think about the better times; at the moment, your thoughts will be full of the horror of the last few weeks. In time, that will ease (though never go away entirely), so doing things to help stimulate the better memories is good.
I have always found it helpful to find a plant that commemorates the one I have lost (so, after Lisa died many years ago, I found a rose called ‘Petite Lisette’; for Honey, it was a viola called Honey Bee). I have had a quick look on the web, and see that there are many plants with the English name Sunny in their full names – irises, chrysanthemums, fuchsias. Some of those at least would be hardy where you live. Then you can make a ceremony, with your family, of planting the plant somewhere special. I am sure the others here will have other ideas.
Please remember that we are always here for you; we all know how terrible you will be feeling

Love to you all
Lynda
xx

[Linda]

Dearest Maura, I am so very sorry for this heartbreak. My most sincere condolences to you and your family.

You are an inspiration as a fur mom and mother to Jill. Your diligence and devotion shined through continually and you did everything possible to heal your precious Sunny. It’s this horrible disease that grabs and takes. My heart is broken and I am in tears for you, your family and Sunny.

I am making a monetary donation to this forum in Sunny’s name. Run free Sunny.

My love and huge consoling hugs, Linda